Rx: vibrator

NewFNP is aware that it is wholly within the boundaries of acceptability to discuss one's sex life with one's provider.  In newFNP's clinic, however, this discussion generally consists of women telling newFNP that they are tired of having sex with their partners and are stupefied at the amount of sex a man wants.  In a 25-patient day, it is exceedingly difficult to suss out if that is because intercourse is physically painful or if it is because their partners are content to sit around and watch TV while the women clean the house & bathe the kids, etc. or if it is because their partners are just sort of remedial when it comes to doing it.

If the aversion stems from physical discomfort, newFNP feels like she can easily manage that discussion.  Not enough lubricant?  Try some Astroglide! 

If the discussion involves a selfish lover/partner, then what is newFNP to do?  There are no Dr. Ruths in newFNP's clinic and there are probably no Dra. Ruths on Telemundo.  Sadly, there is no wonder female sexuality duo a la Berman & Berman. 

But mostly, there is no time.

So what is newFNP to do when her 40-something year old first time patient, all undressed in anticipation for her pap, lets newFNP know that she just never has orgasms.  For all her life, no orgasm.  Sex feels good, but there is just something missing.

And how!!!

Now, newFNP knows that this woman is looking for direction but - hell - newFNP is not her best girlfriend.  She is newFNP!  Can newFNP just say, "Listen.  Seriously listen.  You must teach your man how to perform oral sex.  Period.  At the very least, you guys should watch some Sex and The City reruns for inspiration."

It's a delicate topic, is it not?  How does newFNP know if her patient is open to, say, the cowgirl position or assisted orgasm technology?  They simply do not teach that kind of shit in multiculturalism workshops!

NewFNP didn't say what she may have said to a member of her grad school girl gang, but did bring up some options: communicate with your partner about what feels good; explore for yourself what feels good; maybe try a new position or two; and if all else fails, follow Charlotte York's lead and buy the Rabbit and call it a day.

A very good day.